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Stijn van Willigen | Science-based identity & wellbeing coach
🎯You get promoted, earn a nice salary, and your 🎯You get promoted, earn a nice salary, and your name appears in the management team overview.

But your authentic core values? You’re probably neglecting them.

Because deep down, you feel empty, compelled to prove yourself to the outside world. Unfulfilled and inauthentic.

Our Moralys advisor, Chi Chiu from @chivo.opleidingen , explains in the video why primarily chasing such “extrinsic” goals - rooted in values like image, wealth, and fame - often leads to unhappiness and burnout.
[Bradshaw 2023, Reyes 2024]

🎙️ Listen to the full podcast episode “Leading in line with  your values” via the link in my bio.

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🔬 Scientific evidence:

▪️ Bradshaw et al. (2023): “A meta-analysis of the dark side of the American dream: Evidence for the universal wellness costs of prioritizing extrinsic over intrinsic goals.”

▪️ Reyes et al. (2024): “Materialism predicts burnout through the basic needs: Individual-level and within-person longitudinal evidence.”
🌎 Every human being finds all 10 basic values o 🌎 Every human being finds all 10 basic values on the visual map important. 

However, we don't all rank them the same way.

That’s where tension often begins.

Your top 3 basic values are what we call your “core values.” 

They shape the story you tell yourself - and others - about why something is important to you: 

All 10 basic values are deeply rooted in our 4 universal psychological needs: [Ryan & Deci, 2017]

🧭 Autonomy - living according to your self-chosen norms & values.

🔗 Connection - feeling warmly accepted in groups of people you want to belong to.

📈 Competence - getting better at tasks through a variety of challenges and feedback. 

⚖️ Justice - feeling fairly treated and acknowledged for your contributions.

Differences in core values can clash in the workplace and our overall lives:

▪️ Pioneering (innovation) and Traditionalism (preservation) rarely go hand in hand.

Example: A manager suggests a new approach. The employee prefers the clarity and security of existing rules.

▪️ Idealism (altruism/universalism) and Competition (self-enhancement) can also be at odds.

Example: 
A manager calls out underperformance. The employee pushes back: “I prioritize quality over speed, especially when working with vulnerable clients.”

However, these value differences are also an opportunity for stronger relationships, leadership and better results - if you value these differences.

Steps:

1. *Listen* - really listen - to the concerns of the other person.

2. *Understand* the core values behind those concerns.

“Quality over quantity”: concerns that are rooted in the subvalues Helpful and Loyal (basic value “Helping”)

3. *Acknowledge* the validity and importance of those concerns and values

Say: “Yes, of course it’s important to prioritize quality over quantity, because otherwise we’d lose these important client relationships.”

Then you show that you respect their core values. 

Defenses drop, they become more open to *your* perspective.

🎙️ With Chi from @chivo.opleidingen , I explore this topic in our latest podcast episode: see bio.

It includes how to uncover whether your core values are *controlled or authentic* & our science-based values test.
😲The 16 personalities (MBTI) website design is 😲The 16 personalities (MBTI) website design is and was breathtaking. I smoothly rolled through the questions and got a “freakishly accurate” description of myself:

The result was spot on! And all those people in the reviews had the same experience: “Spot on!”

And lo and behold, two weeks later, I was no longer an ENTJ but an ENFJ.

In the following weeks, I regularly drifted to ESFJ, while my job application process based on ENFJ was still ongoing.

🟥 The high inconsistency of MBTI is very obvious. [Howes 1979, Pittinger 2005]

But even if you always get the same type result: 

Ask yourself whether you want to base important life decisions on MBTI’s advice reports.

For the four 🟦 🟪 🟧 🟩 and the types based on them, it has never been proven that they predict anything useful, except for an in-depth conversation.

🌍 Hou may recognize yourself in the result and it might sound logical, just like the idea that the earth is flat.

But our research shows (and this is also very practical): 

If you walk in the same direction long enough, you just end up where you started.

🚶‍♂️ So before you start walking:

Rather navigate with a your map based on your Big 5 and HEXACO results, which we know actually predict useful things. [Anglim 2018, Pletzer 2021, Zell 2021, etc.]

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Wondering about other color tests? 

Listen to our “Leiden met Lef” podcast episode 2 with myself and Chi from @chivo.opleidingen via the link in my bio.
♈ Do you know that blissful feeling when you rea ♈ Do you know that blissful feeling when you read your horoscope? Popular color tests are designed in a similar way so that: 

🟨 You feel good when reading the result.
🟥 You can easily tell others about your result (and then sound surprisingly wise to many).

So the marketing is already taken care of!

Would you like that same feeling, but discover as well:

🟩 What you’re good at (your character qualities)
🟦 What you stand for (your core values)
(Scientifically validated, so it has the ability to predict for example what work suits you.)

Then start with our free Hero Lift test. Comment “Hero Lift” and I’ll send it over.

🎙️P.S. Chi from @chivo.opleidingen and I did an indepth podcast episode about “color tests” and personalities. Listen via the link in my bio.
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