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👇 Core values driven career & wellbeing coach.
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🔬 Proven: You should live your life in line wit

🔬 Proven: You should live your life in line with your own values, not others’. Why?

It fulfills your psychological need for 🧭 Autonomy, which is proven to improve your mental health, energy, and work performance.

Supporting studies: Van den Broeck 2016, Slemp 2024, Aryee 2024.

It is the ultimate self-help, the antidote to burnout and depression.

But what if you tactlessly impose your values on others, for example your colleagues?

That won’t work if their well-being and performance matter to you.

Remember: everyone shares the same values, but prioritizes them differently.

You want to give colleagues the opportunity to work according to their own values towards a common goal, while encouraging them to prioritize your values more.

You do this by using the inspiring characteristics within your personality.

Using these characteristics evokes admiration, inspiring others to *voluntarily* prioritize your values more.

After studying many religious and philosophical texts, Seligman & Peterson discovered 24 of these characteristics. [Peterson 2004]

See the image for the statistical distribution:

The farther two characteristics are apart, the less likely one person has both.

For example, it’s rare for one person to score highly on both Gratitude and Judgment.

Additionally, certain inspiring characteristics are particularly well-suited to working according to specific values, as indicated by the colors.

Inspire others to prioritize your values. Don’t coerce, but lead by example.

P.S. You can discover your own inspiring characteristics with our science-validated HERO test. Feel free to message me for more information.

I often hear people use "Morality" and "Ethics" in

I often hear people use "Morality" and "Ethics" interchangeably...

But knowing the actual difference allows you to analyze and understand human behavior much better.

✨ Morality means acting in a good and proper way.

There are 7 unwritten "moral rules" for this: Morality As Cooperation 7 (MAC7)

The first three apply more or less within specific social contexts. See examples in slides.

1. Altruism (family): Doing something without expecting anything in return.

2. Loyalty (friends & colleagues): Staying committed and supportive, even during tough times.

3. Reciprocity (society): Transactions based on mutual benefit.

And further:

4. Justice: The fair distribution of benefits and burdens, the foundation of morality.

5. Merit: Getting what you deserve.

6. Courage: Fighting for justice.

7. Respect: Honoring others' property and dignity.

These moral rules are the product of evolutionary advantages that human cooperation gives.

Therefore they feel 'intuitively right'.

But sometimes, moral intuition fails us...

⚖️ Ethics is less intuitive. It involves logical reasoning about what is right in a specific situation.

Often, there are conflicts in values: "moral dilemmas”. For example:

A colleague asks you to cover for them after they did something wrong (value Helping)...

...But you know this could hurt another colleague or damage your integrity (value Rules).

What will you do for the overall well-being of the team? [Greene 2001]

I advise to listen to all the value-driven perspectives and seriously weigh them before making a fair decision.

If someone feels like you’ve sincerely considered their perspective, they won’t feel unjustly treated.

Even if the outcome is unfavorable to them.

In science we call this "procedural justice". [van den Bos 2023]

What’s a recent moral dilemma you’ve had? What did you decide, if anything?

📈 While I was growing my recipe software @nutri

📈 While I was growing my recipe software @nutriaiplatform I often struggled to meet the standards of "moral leadership". (Note that Morality is not the same as Ethics.)

That “feeling of being an immoral leader" triggered the start of my "Applied Ethics" education at @chivo.opleidingen .

Having power means that you can (with coercion) influence people and resources.

As a leader, you are given that power to facilitate the collaboration of a team toward a shared business goal.

If you fail to do so, you abuse your power, and that is "immoral leadership".

Research teaches us immorality negatively impacts both performance and mental health.

See the slides for the @chivo.opleidingen wheel to effective leadership, about which I will soon host a Dutch-speaking live video podcast.

See the link in the first comment to sign up!

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🔬Evidence
(1) Henry 2024, (2) Ndjaboué 2012, (3) Robbins 2012, (4) Ozkan 2022, (5) Aryee 2013, (6) Slemp 2018, (7) Slemp 2024, (8) Lee 2023, (9) Bradshaw 2022.

🗝️ The truly proven keys to making new behavi

🗝️ The truly proven keys to making new behavior sustainable?

First, whether you find it enjoyable and/or interesting: intrinsic motivation.

Second, a "less enjoyable" alternative: that the behavior aligns with your Authentic core values.

What YOU find important, regardless of others' judgments.

Because that behavior fulfills your need for Autonomy.

It goes hand in hand with more happiness, energy, and longterm performance. [studies 4,5,6]

When you are "autonomously motivated," you stick with things longer until they become a habit. [1,2,3]

And the more often you repeat the behavior, the better you become at it.

This fulfills your need for Competence and provides extra motivation.

That’s also why the "66 days to form a habit" rule is complete nonsense:

It does recognize the core values factor in habit formation and various other aspects: see the slides. [7]

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Reminder of the 3 psychological needs and Justice for motivation & happiness: [8]

🧭 A - Autonomy: Being yourself and doing what you want, without judgment.

🔗 C - Connection: Feeling understood and cared for.

📈 C - Competence: Being good at something and improving in it.

⚖️ J - Justice: Feeling fairly treated.

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🔬Studies:
(1) Pelletier 2001, (2) Ng 2012, (3) Teixeira 2012, (4) Van Den Broeck 2016, (5) Martins Nunes 2023, (6) Greguras 2009, (7) Lally 2010, (8) Ryan & Deci 2017.

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